Networking: Finding A Shoe That Fits

When it comes to networking, one size does not always fit all. Most of us have heard the old adage, “It’s not what you know but who you now.” And for some of us, it’s as easy as that. We have no problem talking to strangers. Or to walls for that matter. But for others of us, the thought of networking conjures up the image of a room full of people we don’t know. In other words: Awkward. Terrifying. And “No Way!”

Sometimes I wish I could erase the word “networking” from the dictionary, so as to erase the negative connotation and stereotypes associated with it। I’d then come up with a new word that blends “info sharing” with “relationship building” because that’s really what networking is. But the new fusion word probably wouldn’t be in the dictionary, and we might get some puzzled looks. So instead, let’s try and reframe…



I’m consistently asked, “How do I become a better networker?” Or “How do I become one of those people who can effortlessly work a room?” My answer: You don’t। The goal of networking is not to become someone you’re not because a) you might feel awkward and b) you might look awkward. Not a good combo. The goal is actually to identify a networking approach that is both compatible and comfortable with who you are. We all fall some somewhere along the continuum between “chatty patty” and “hermit.” It’s important to understand that there can be strengths and weaknesses associated with both extremes. Play on your strengths. Set realistic goals. Identify an approach that “fits.” And challenge yourself, without throwing yourself into a panic.

Here is a great link to “Successful Job Search Networking.” Pick and choose what works for you!